| 1. |
Do not speak
negatively about the other parent in front of the child. I know this
is extremely difficult. Remember that the child loves BOTH of you.
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| 2. |
Do not involve
the child in passing messages or support payments or maintenance payment
from one parent to the other. One of the reasons why this is not suitable
is that if the child forgets and one parent becomes angered as a result,
the child will feel responsible for heightening tensions between the
parents.
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| 3. |
Do
not transfer children from one parent to another at unreasonable times,
immediately before bedtime, as it is very difficult for the child
to settle down to sleep, or during a mealtime. This can be very disruptive
to the child’s sense of stability.
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| 4. |
Do involve a
therapist of school counselor to help your child during this process.
It provides the child with a wonderful release and someone to talk
to.
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